For the past few months, and with all this time I have had at hand to spend in solitude, I have developed a genuine interest in self-development; in particular, to understand how one can be more present and empathetic toward others. Contrary to popular belief, charisma doesn’t always come naturally to a few people, but it may be developed and honed like any other skill.
what exactly is charisma?
So, what exactly is charisma? I found the most concise definition in one of (the great) Russell Brand’s podcast: “…the ability to influence without using logic.” Not using rational arguments or fancy words, but to impact using the essence of one’s true nature. This may be a hard concept to grasp onto, yes, but let me break it down into steps how you can utilize this concept to draw others to you and command any room.
The secret of charisma is not about your qualities, but rather making those around you feel good about themselves. Humans inherently desire attention – recognition, and acknowledgment of what they do or offer. So next time you are in a social gathering, show interest in what others are talking about, ask genuine questions, and they will remember that one good interaction they had with you.
Bonus tip (from personal experience):
Never use your phone when in a group. People notice and appreciate it when you are mindful of oft-ignored basic etiquette.
Often, people are too excited about their life and achievements, they forget how important of a trait listening is. As Epictetus put it:
“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.“
In the past few years, I have made some of the most valued friendships using just this one, all-important skill. Life is hard, expectations aren’t always met, and many people may be looking for someone to listen to how they feel. Worst thing you can do is bombard them with your advice and ideas. Word for the wise, be a passionate listener before you give your twopence.
Be of service:
Helping others without expecting recognition or reciprocity is the noblest of acts. Nothing leaves a better impression of a stranger than when they help you when you’re least expecting it, right? I have been practicing this principle for quite some time now, and I feel content every time I hear a “thank you” followed by a smile. So, give it a try because there’s nothing to lose and everything to gain, especially if you aspire to be a charismatic person.
In conclusion, charisma may seem like a mysterious quality, but you need not be genetically lucky to have a natural, powerful magnetism to yourself. These tips can help anyone develop a charm that attracts people to them, stimulates respect and influence over them.
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Hi, y’all! I’m Hassaan & this blog is my journey through life as I observe & learn from the world as it unfolds in front of me. Sounds interesting? Grab some chai and let’s go!